“Well behaved women rarely make history”–Pulitzer Prize winning historian Laurel Thatcher Ulrich.
Don’t we all have rules we live by? And can’t we all agree that there are rules that keep, not just our lives running smoothly, but in fact the society’s in which we exist running pretty well? Rules are our friends! Right? There are lots of them I like. I personally love that we have rules to drive by, rules about hurting others, how to build houses that don’t fall down… in other words rules that make things work! But what about all those rules we tell ourselves about HOW and WHY to live our lives? Can you feel me?
We live in time of the world where lots and lots of rules are being questioned. And yet I meet people, especially women, every day that are just running on auto pilot. Heck, sometimes I even see her in the mirror. We have a rule for how our hair “should” look. The type of job we “should” have. The kind of partner we are “supposed” to choose. Or maybe its about the way we vote, or the things we are supposed to hold on to as important…because someone told us it was important. How many of us actually think about why we think what we think? Or about the way we make decisions or the values we have? I mean seriously…I am a curvy girl these days…I don’t own a horizontal stripe, I don’t try on horizontal stripes…because “I was told” (by whom, when and where I do not know…) that horizontal stripes on roundish types are not flattering. So it became a RULE! DO NOT EVEN THINK ABOUT THAT BEAUTIFUL DRESS…IT HAS (gasp..the horror, the horror!) HORIZONTAL STRIPES! Rules. Strangling, stifling, and down right stupid sometimes.
Entrepreneurs are always thinking about the rules. Whats working, whats not working. Do we need to change that process? Why? Will it work better? Who can fill that role better? And so on. One reason I love surrounding myself with people building their own business’s is because I constantly feel stretched. I have realized that people that create business's don't just think outside of the box, they burn… Click To Tweet I mean lets be honest..raise your hand if some of the most successful people you know are just a little weird…a little different…and totally comfortable in their own skin.
So if you had to pick the rules you live by today that you thought were holding you back what would they be? Is it about the job? The location you live in? The type of family you have? I 100% believe that our very soul expands or contracts based on the rules we choose. And guess what…the rules we had 10, 5, or even 1 year ago we may not need any more! For me, the number 1 rule I had to stop living by was “My choices do NOT HAVE TO MAKE EVERYONE HAPPY”. Its been a bit of a detox believe me and there has definitely been some backsliding. But recognizing and dropping the rule, for me, has opened up doors upon doors for me to fly through.
Rules really are made to broken or reevaluated or just plain let go. That is growth. And its been my personal experience that growth leads to a whole lot of happiness and freedom!